11 February 2012, 9:03 pm
i never do this online but i figure maybe an outsiders perspective could help ease my nerves. quick background story, my bf and i just celebrated our 3 years thursday and our sons 2nd birthday 2 weeks ago, recently i have decided to relocate from MD to MS about a 22 hour drive, my parents divorced and my mom is trying not to loose the house but im moving closer to my sister so i can get on my feet and be better financially. i wanted to go ahead of my bf and move and then move him a month or so later so it was cheaper and easier on me (plus he hasnt been father/bf of the year so my sister is more likely to help my son and i if its just us, plus it is cheaper on us. I have talked to my bf about it and he wanted to think it over but its been an ongoing fight he is worried bc it is a HUGE change and a huge step for us so i dont blame him that its stressing him out. Earlier this week he decided to get mad and go crazy and take my car and stay at a motel (or so he says) and its been 5 days, almost everyday he said he would be back with my car and still this drags on, i am hesitant to file a police report bc i dont want to get involved with that and idont want him in trouble i just want my car. i still have NO idea where he really is and im pissed he took my car for so long. he owes me money for our child (not child support, just money from taxes etc) and he is trying to not pay me the rest of it i planned on using the money to move us btw. now im even more stressed then ever but to top it all off he and i argued bc im being a parent and adult while he says he is having a breakdown. he has no job, no car, no nothing so idk how he is so stressed out but im not allowed to object him or i "dont care about what he is going through" as of today he said things are over and we havent had a relationship in a long time. whatever, not what im asking about anyway. my question is more like this, if my son and i move 22 hours away and get into our own place and everything i planned on making a better stable situation for my family, will he eventually see it and come join us? i love him (idk why after all the bs ive delt with including almost going into pre labor bc my bf literally dissappeard for 2 weeks, 1 month before my due date) and he loves his son so idk if him being away from us would fly, should i give up and live my life or does anyone think he will come after us? all we have wanted is a stable family and its been very hard on us so now im doing it and he is pu**ying out. any opinions? suggestions? (dont be too hateful please but be honest, i need honesty for once)... Read More »
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